Joy the Baker

I Accidentally Saw a Picture of You

August 12, 2012

accidentally

I accidentally saw a picture of you because you are still a friend of a friend of the Internet.

It was a picture of a party with the appropriate amount of cool people in hip glasses… and a dude in a Paris, France t-shirt.  I didn’t know that Paris made shirts.

In this photograph, people are mid-conversation, their mouths shaped with what are surely interesting words.  One man stands awkwardly in his beard choice.  Old friends embrace center frame, most sincerely, with open clenched hands and softly closed eyes.

You stand in the back, slightly off-center, the only one looking at the camera.  You have that half-smile I recognize.  The one between pleasure and obligation.   You’re wearing your shirt the way you did… and do… down to the third button (or is that the two and a halfth button?).  You look comfortable and relaxed, with just the most tender amount of self-doubt.

You’re with a girl.  She’s brown-haired and side-swept.  I imagine that she’s the kind of girl who can easily shop for jean shorts, and speaks kindly more often than not.  She seems like the kind of girl who hates New York City because it wreaks havoc on her shoes (really she just thinks it’s a big and scary place), but once had the time of her life in Spain on a backpacking trip when she was 23.  Her gaze is focused on the embracing couple as near strangers capable of judgement.  She stands bolted next to you like you’re her anchor in the social storm.

You two seem finely matched… but what do I know?  (Nothing at all.)

I accidentally saw a picture of you and it reminded me that I was dating a man rightfully shaking his fist at God, while trying to hold my hand with the other.  I was reminded of how fiercely we tried to hold our relationship together,  and how devastated and relieved we were in its destruction.  There’s water under that bridge.

I accidentally saw a picture of you.  No big deal.  I wrote about it.


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  • I just discovered your blog and I’m so grateful that I did. Besides the recipes, THIS post. Oh my.. I feel like I could have written it myself. I know 100000% how you feel.. my ex and i broke up (unexpectedly — but isn’t that always the case?) in summer, and I recently decided to take a little Facebook break because it was just.. too much. Even if you’re okay with things, it’s still hard to be smacked in the face with the other person looking happy while you’re still figuring things in life out.. You know?

  • If I was alone while reading this, I might have teared up a little more.

    Beautiful.

  • I followed the trail from the Simple Mom podcast to your podcast to your blog, and while eating one of your pumpkin butterscotch cookies I found this post. Beautiful. Yes. That’s exactly how it feels.

  • This.
    “…it reminded me that I was dating a man rightfully shaking his fist at God, while trying to hold my hand with the other. I was reminded of how fiercely we tried to hold our relationship together, and how devastated and relieved we were in its destruction. There’s water under that bridge.”
    For nearly a year I have been unable to sufficiently articulate the gut wrenching blessing it was for me to leave an amazing, but ill-fated love. Your words are perfect. Thank you for sharing, Joy!

  • Oh, man, Joy. This one made me teary. I feel you, Lady! You are such a beautiful person.

  • Oh Joy! I’m catching up on your blog and I see this – and I love love it. I read it and I can feel your emotion and its real. Its like I know you…and we’re friends. Its like @grubarazzi said: “this post made me love you even more… if i could love a girl like a friend that i don’t even know…that would be you :)”

  • This post made me love you even more… If I could love a girl like a friend that I don’t even know…that would be you :)

  • I want to like this on fb, I want to pin this. I LOVE it. But I’m at work… This is lovely.

  • Just now catching up on my blog reading….finally got to yours. I HAD to say this was so beautifully written..so relate-able…
    Good stuff.

  • Wonderful writing. I know we’ve all been there. Thank you for sharing a little part of yourself.

  • You are awesome, Joy!!

  • More of this. Oh, please! More of this.

  • Ummmm…this is great and where have I have been and you wrote a book?! (see second question)

    we need to be friends again. Or friends for the first time. I’m in LA a lot these days… sooooo that’s actually kind of a possibility.

  • paradox right? you kind of miss knowing someone so well but, then you are also glad it is in the past at the same time. awkward and perfectly human. thanks for sharing beautiful sentiment.

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