hey old high school friend…
hey old high school friend,
remember that time i sent you a Friend Request on Facebook, like… two years ago?
you obviously ignored it.
that’s so weird!
you know why that’s weird…? because we were actually friends in high school. it’s not like you were just someone whose name i knew.
if this is about that time i accidentally dated your brother… can we get over that!? because that was 15 years ago. like, seriously. FIFTEEN YEARS AGO!
he’s married and i stopped caring about that dude FIFTEEN YEARS AGO.
don’t worry… i don’t spend my days and night worrying about your blocked and ignored friendship. it’s just that i was reminded of your name and your ignoring nature because you commented on our old high school buddy’s photograph.
all good, right? all old friendships, right?
nope. not at all.
i was just about to get super annoyed that you’ve ignored me until i realized that I DO NOT CARE… like, at all.
i had to write something to really reiterate to myself that i actually don’t care.
do not mistake this short letter for care.
i just think it’s weird.
…just so you know… i know… you’re being weird.
love,
joy
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this happened to me a few years ago but not on FB, in person! someone i would have called a GREAT friend acted like she didn’t know me at the bar. Like, no recollection of my name whatsoever even when i told her who i was. Are people really that dumb or just mean? Either way, who cares right? Not me.
I completely agree. I hate when people are that strange. It makes you wonder what is possibly on their mind.
omg, same thing happened to me except I didn’t date her brother. she’s just being weird and same thing commented on a h.s. photo like really? so weird. i think facebook brings back drama but i appreciate that I can keep in touch with other friends, sending out some love in our busy lives and choose to ignore those that no longer matter.
HaHaHa – this totally made me laugh today. FB, the “new high school” – mean girl crap and all! LOL
Same thing happened to me two months ago on Facebook. My college roommate totally ignored my friend request and we were great friends. I knew it was intentional because I checked her wall, and there she answered her friends, as well as accepted a friend request of another friend of ours in college. People can be so rude and strange throughout the years.
Ugh. I hate this as well. Whilst actually I myself only have a very small handful of people from my schooldays on my facebook there is something innately petty about those that turn down friend requests because of, one can only believe, a grudge against some small slight done when you were in your mid teens. If we judged everyone based on their fourteen year old selves then, well, we may as well all just be fourteen again and no one wants that because we’re ALL weird and stressy and bitchy and stupid and spotty at fourteen. Get over it already!
Isn’t it cool that we can use our blogs to get out stuff even if it’s not food related! I hope they read it. Hey not to be too nosey but how do you “accidentally” date someone lol ;)
Take care and enjoy this amazing weather!!
ok… whatever… it totally wasn’t an accident. hahahhaaa! oh god.
I wish I could “like” this comment :) hahaha!
I’ve actually been holding off for a week now on replying to a facebook message from someone I knew in high school. The message is super friendly and bubbly, but I seriously only vaguely remember who she is and can’t think what to say in return. Oops! I did accept the friend request, though.
Hahahaha I think we all “don’t care” when that happens to us:-)
H
Man, if people didn’t want to friend me based on my high school self, I wouldn’t blame them LOL! I was such a selfish brat then, but come on, that was so long ago (I am not going to say how long though :) I do agree that FB brings up old feelings, pettiness, and fond memories of “Mean Girls”, but it is so easy to ignore and move on because those people really don’t matter anymore. If they want to harbor old grudges, feel free, my heart and soul are clean :)
Add me to this list. Not a FB issue but more that someone who used to be my closest friend now never contacts me, ignores messages I send and so on. Not just with me, alos with another mutual friend. I’ve got past the paranoia and upset and now, like you I no longer care and actually feel a bit sorry for this person. It’s good to move on but people can be very weird! Thanks for sharing :)
Oops…above was a mistake! Anyway…Joy, this came at the perfect time for me! Thank You so so much! I needed that! I love you so much. You totally rock. She’s is most likely jealous of you!! Haha…who needs her!! Thanks again! Have an awesome day!
Barbara
this is totally unrelated.. but where did you get your skirt? it’s lovely.
Hmmm…… I would think about this one, I think people are quick to forget that although some may ignore them, they can be just as good at ignoring others:)
Hey, while it sucks she is not over it. Did you ever take a minute to say sorry? or just expect her to be over it because you thought it was time? Maybe it was a bigger deal in her life/family/relationship with her brother than you are aware of and your passive aggressive blog post is not going to make it any better. I love your blog and feel totally let down by this post. Not judging, really but is sounds like you DO care and a better use of your time would be to send a message TO her and not call her names on your blog. Keep baking with JOY.
i’m sorry to hear you’re totally let down.
ya, not really :) but that’s okay.
Haha! One of my bridesmaids and former best friend once deleted me ’cause I started going to a different church. So I just kept annoying her with friend requests and pretended there was never anything bad between us because, really, that’s a stupid reason for there to be anything bad between us. I refuse to have to say to anyone “yeah, we’re not friends anymore ’cause I baptized my baby, so it just got weird. You know how it is…”
People are weird. Except for you. Sometimes.
i think you might care…just a little.
no bigs.
Sometimes people distance themselves when they feel like their lives suck and are feeling embarrassed by their circumstances. I have definitely felt that way before. So maybe she ignored your request because she felt like your life was too awesome by comparison.
That’s a really good point, Robyn. In fact, most of the people I know who shun Facebook all together don’t do so because they’re lives are so awesome and full, but because they are self conscious of what they don’t have in their lives.
People are just weird and rude sometimes! Hope you’re not letting it bother you AT ALL. :) Her loss!
Iiiiiii love this.
Because it totally happened with the girl I used to be best friends with in High School.
You…are so mahj.
This person obviously doesn’t realize that friendship with you involves cupcakes.
right!?!?
Yeah, my ex boyfriend from high school that I dated for three weeks (and probably broke his heart, for real) won’t friend me on FB… But I’ve been friends with his now wife (who hated me in high school because I dated him instead of him dating her… oh the tangled webs…) on FB for going on 5 years now and she’s actually lent me ebooks and such. But him? STILL won’t accept my request. We dated for three weeks. TWELVE years ago. We didn’t even kiss. Sheeze.
Good for you, Lady!
Life is short and so, so sweet. Spend every minute you can with or for those you love and those who love you right back. After all, today is a gift, that’s why it’s called The Present.
Blog on, Sunshine!
Jody
What about when they add you and after they get to look over your profile delete you …or even write you an email about their life and how they are and they delete you. That’s even MORE lame. I agree – FB is the new high school.
A former friend once told me that some friends aren’t meant to remain in your life. at the time I thought it was the most ridiculous statement ever, but now I get it. sounds like she’s not worth your time or friendship. consider yourself lucky.
Amen.
I had a friend ignore my friend request. About a year later she sent me a friend request. I think she just didn’t see it, because there’s been nothing weird in any of her comments to me. Sometimes FB is just confusing. I once chose “not now”, thinking I would figure it out later, and the friend request completely disappeared, as if I chose “no way.” Also, considering how beautiful you are, she could just be embarrassed that she got fat, or that her life is not as successful.
I am an ignorer on FB. I am friends with people I have never met in real life (hello bloggers!) and people that I am in groups with. I am also friends with people I see in real life but I chose to not friend a lot of people I used to know/don’t have contact with/cut me out of their life at some point.
Is it petty? Maybe. If it wasn’t called friending I wonder if it would be as irksome. I don’t need or want a giant friends list, too much to distract me.
I am kinda over FB in general :P
Am I terrible for unfriending tons of highschool friends (and some great college friends)? I mean, the ones I still have things in common with and would keep up with in person I kept, but really, I only want to be friends with people I’d be friends with again in real life and have coffee with if I ever saw them again. And let’s be honest, I won’t.