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Mama Says

October 13, 2012 by Joy the Baker 196 Comments

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I was so fortunate to be raised by two loving, generous, good-humored, hungry, ball-busting parents.  Both my mom and dad taught me a plethora of life lessons that range from real to ridiculous.  Oooh man… these parents of mine loooooove a good life lesson.  They relish it.  My mama, in particular, is full of hearty gemstones for living.  She didn’t teach me much about eye-liner or kitten heels… that I sort of figured out on my own (by making soooo many mistakes trying to copy Blossom).  Mama-knowledge was more along the lines of ‘you know I raised you better than that, now act right and eat your apple’.  The older I get the more I appreciate the woman who raised me… mostly because the older I get the more I realize what a ridiculous youth I must have been to endure.  She’s a strong one and I feel blessed to have her.

Mama Says (or heavily implies):

–  Do not steal a person’s scissors.  More specifically, do not steal my scissors.  Just because you see scissors in the house does not mean they’re your scissors.  They’re for fabric, not construction paper.  Do not make the mistake of stealing my scissors.  Thank you.

–  We’re going to hem your pants and you’re not going to like it, but we’re going to do it anyway.  I don’t care if your friends at school don’t hem their pants.  If your friends at school tripped and fell off a bridge because they didn’t hem their pants, would you trip and fall off a bridge too?  No.  You’re welcome.

–  Always leave a place cleaner than you found it.  This often means cleaning a bathroom you do not want to clean.  Do it… even though you don’t want to.

–  No, you can not borrow my calligraphy pens.  Thank you for asking nicely.  Still… no.

–  Be the best of you that you can be.

–  ‘Shut-up’ is a bad word.  (Joy’s personal amendment:  unless you mean it in a good way.)

–  Donate everything.  Mostly your time and your clothes.

–  Happy 12th birthday.  I’m going to teach you how to do your own laundry now.  That’s that.

–  Hand-wash means wash by hand.  Follow directions.

–  Don’t do it.  You’ll get pregnant.  You really will…  don’t do it.

–  Don’t you dare come in this house pregnant if you don’t mean to be pregnant.  I don’t care if you’re 31.

–  You’re hungry?  Eat an apple.  You don’t want an apple?  You must not be hungry.

–  Yes I have Tums in my purse.  No, Joy… they’re not candy.  Get a hold of yourself.  Do you want an apple?  You must not be hungry.  Again… Tums are not candy.

–  I don’t put up with nonsense and I didn’t teach you to put up with nonsense either.

–  Doing things you don’t want to do when you’re a kid is really good practice for a being an adult and doing all the things that you don’t want to do… that’s why we’re picking you up from your best friends sleepover party early on Sunday morning and dragging you to church when none of your other friends have to leave early and go to church.  It’s ok that it’s not fair.  It’s ok that you’re whining.  You’re learning discipline and it’s a reeaallllyyy hard lesson to learn.

–  Because I said so.

–  Be braver than you think you can be.  Take my lead.

 

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  1. Courtney @ Bake. Eat. Repeat.

    October 17, 2012 at 7:36 pm

    I TOTALLY thought Tums were candy when I was little. I would beg for them! What is it about those chalky pastel circles that makes kids nuts?

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  2. Ellen

    October 17, 2012 at 5:52 pm

    OMG, you are at the nut tree in CA!

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  3. Annie

    October 17, 2012 at 5:13 pm

    Just brought tears to my eyes. Our mothers sound a lot alike! Love love love your blog, your posts always brighten my day!

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  4. Ria Nichols

    October 17, 2012 at 12:35 pm

    Joy.
    All of these things are exactly what my mother said to me.
    Do we have the same mom?
    ria.

    [;

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  5. Carissa

    October 17, 2012 at 9:51 am

    My mom was the same with several of those! I almost forgot about the sleepover thing, with going to church. You’re right, that totally preps you for doing all the stuff you don’t want to as an adult!

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  6. Carol

    October 17, 2012 at 8:28 am

    A woman whose love for baking and witty humor is making her a household name! I LOVE JOY WILSON

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  7. Melissa

    October 17, 2012 at 4:50 am

    Thank you so much for sharing!!! I really needed to hear some of those life lessons today. I shoulld probably book mark this page so that I can get a refresher course of them once in a while.

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  8. jayne

    October 16, 2012 at 9:21 pm

    My mom says the same thing about her scissors.

    Stop stealing her fabric scissors for cardstock!
    But it’s sharper than my own, Mom!

    Reply
  9. Sue

    October 16, 2012 at 9:19 pm

    Wonderful memories. Was the picture taken at the Nut Tree restaurant in Vacaville,CA? I remember riding horses like those at the Nut Tree!

    Reply
  10. Katie

    October 16, 2012 at 7:53 pm

    Oh mamas! What a blessing they are. This post (oddly?) gave me chills. Loved every word.

    Reply
  11. Becky

    October 16, 2012 at 6:12 pm

    I LOVE this. Obvi, lots of people relate bc so many comments! The advice reminds me a lot of things my mom said (and still says), almost every single piece. Moms are the best! Thanks for sharing; totally made my day and made me miss my Mom.

    Reply
  12. Rene

    October 16, 2012 at 5:33 pm

    Your mama rocks! I wish I had half that much backbone.

    Reply
  13. Amanda

    October 16, 2012 at 11:59 am

    Oh this is brilliant. My mom said most of those things too, and the scary part is, I catch myself spouting them too, all. the. time. Especially the apple one.

    Reply
  14. Louise

    October 16, 2012 at 10:46 am

    The scissors! Yes! And “shut-up” being a bad word – that and “stupid” were banned in our house growing up. I still can’t bring myself to use either one of those casually.

    Reply
  15. debbie

    October 16, 2012 at 10:14 am

    LOVE!! Mama’s are so smart, aren’t they??

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