Hello friends! ย It’s Sunday and it’s Valentine’s Day and I hope someone that loves you made you a cup of coffee and kissed you on the head. ย I hope your day is filled with warmth.
I’ve been in Asheville, North Carolina this week, wearing a puffy jacket (it’s not so warm), sorting my mind and settling some life. ย Asheville seemed like a good place to get sorted with very good company from Ashley and Glenn and their tribe of homesteaders and artists.
The Internet happened this week and I tried not to pay it much mind, just because… sometimes the Internet is better left mostly unattended. ย Here are some things that caught me:
โข ย Because we all care about love very very much. ย Eileen Myles on the Excruciating Pain of Waiting for Love
โข ย File under, Very Good Questions?ย ย How To Be Human: how much should I sacrifice to make a relationship work?ย You know… easy Valentine’s Day reads.
โข ย How People Learn To Become Resilientย “Which side of the equation weighs more? ย The resilience or the stressors?” ย It’s like, ย who you gonna listen to? ย The strength or the stress? ย (Sometimes the stress dammit, but usually not dammit.)
โข ย I found love because I got lucky; not because I changed myself. ย Thumbs up. ย Not sarcastic.
โข ย Agnes Martin on Art, Happiness, Pride, and Failure: a rare interview with the reclusive artist.
โข ย It just gets really weird, ok? ย The Incredibly Sad World of Niche Dating Apps
โข ย Here’s a Sunday rabbit hole that will also make you feel old. ย The teens are killing us at the snapchat game. ย (And we’re ok with it, right?)ย ย How to Snapchat Like The Teensย
โข ย Why fruits and vegetables taste better in Europe.ย We’re Americans and we want to grow ALL the tomatoes even if they don’t taste that great.
โข ย What makes The Perfect Email?ย Keep it short. ย Keep it sweet. ย No emojis? ย Wait… how many exclamation points is too many exclamation points?
โข ย And then we all bought metallic bronze Nike throwbacks.
โขย Citrus and Greens, Avocado and Cashew. ย A very good Winter salad that is bright and bold.
I love you. ย Not just today but usually.
xo Joy
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I just wanted to say that I found you through @drakeoncake, am about to get “23 on a money tree” on my birthday cake tomorrow, and all of the pieces here were exactly what I needed to read today. So thanks, Joy!!
This makes me so happy! Right on! Happy Birthday!
Great post as always!!
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I have followed Ashley since the start of her book publishing career, and I love when two creatives I admire are friends. Makes the world seem warm, small, and approachable.
Were you recently in a commercial?
I cannot believe that you cook in that tiny oven. Amazing! If u can, I can.
I spent valentine’s day in a new city at a brunch full of ladies I don’t really know. Apart from one gal with whom I discussed career paths and hiking and life goals, the entirety of the four hours was spent discussing dating. Mostly bad dating, as a result of various online sites and apps. And yet, even as we are sitting there rehashing the worst dates these successful, smart, grown-ass women had ever had, some of them were on their phones, swiping whichever darn way it is you swipe to say you think someone’s cute.
Once I got home and the mimosas wore off, I felt really sad. Maybe it was just the V-day occasion that brought it out, but is this really all 10 women in a room have to talk about, to lament about? And if you’ve been online dating for multiple years with no success, why are you encouraging me to sign up? I’d like to find a loving partner, but I just don’t have it in me to make it my whole life’s work.
So thanks for providing some other perspectives on love for this holiday, it’s making me feel a little less alone in my take on this whole thing. I’m leaving it in the hands of luck! Or maybe I’ll just stay single.
Happy Love Day!
JOY! This was such a killer list, thank you – pulling at my heartstrings and my mind. I think I could read Eileen Myles all the live-long day. And the Maris Kreizman is exactly 100% how I feel about being single and can we please just make everyone in the world read it?
Hmmmm. I feel like maybe you want to read this: https://www.newstatesman.com/politics/feminism/2016/02/maybe-you-should-just-be-single.
I myself want to broadcast it from rooftops.
YES! This too. Thanks for sharing Amelia.
Now excuse me while I go and send it to at least 27 amazing women I knowโฆ
I wish I had known you were in . Asheville! I live here :) if you need ideas for places to eat, drink, or generally get a locals perspective. I bring your treats recipes to work all the time!
I’m from Asheville and I love to hear people talk about it! What an eclectic city, right? So proud to call it home!
Love your grapic about having a twin. Our husbands truly live by this motto! Happy Valentine’s Day!
Happy love day Joy!! Thanks for the links :)
Glad you have enjoyed our lovely state. I’ll be in Asheville next Sunday. Can’t wait!
Off to make your small batch granola for the second time this week….
Thanks, Joy! Happy Valentine’s Day, to you!
Happy Valentine’s Joy, you make all my Sundays better. xo
Just made a batch of your orange/chocolate scones to gift my dear neighbors/friends for their Valentine breakfast.
I cut them in to heart shapes and saved one for meโฆdelicious recipe!
Happy Valentine’s Day and Happy Sundayโฆlove this blog and your thoughtful and well written posts.
Happy Sunday and Valentine’s Day, you wonderful person!
Love your Sunday posts.
Wow, what a lovely quote! I am convinced people say this very often to you <3
xx from Bavaria/Germany, Rena
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Ah, Joy this was lovely and the top picture made me laugh a lot! I hope you spend your Valentine’s with people you love!