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I Accidentally Saw a Picture of You

August 12, 2012 by Joy the Baker 327 Comments

accidentally

I accidentally saw a picture of you because you are still a friend of a friend of the Internet.

It was a picture of a party with the appropriate amount of cool people in hip glasses… and a dude in a Paris, France t-shirt.  I didn’t know that Paris made shirts.

In this photograph, people are mid-conversation, their mouths shaped with what are surely interesting words.  One man stands awkwardly in his beard choice.  Old friends embrace center frame, most sincerely, with open clenched hands and softly closed eyes.

You stand in the back, slightly off-center, the only one looking at the camera.  You have that half-smile I recognize.  The one between pleasure and obligation.   You’re wearing your shirt the way you did… and do… down to the third button (or is that the two and a halfth button?).  You look comfortable and relaxed, with just the most tender amount of self-doubt.

You’re with a girl.  She’s brown-haired and side-swept.  I imagine that she’s the kind of girl who can easily shop for jean shorts, and speaks kindly more often than not.  She seems like the kind of girl who hates New York City because it wreaks havoc on her shoes (really she just thinks it’s a big and scary place), but once had the time of her life in Spain on a backpacking trip when she was 23.  Her gaze is focused on the embracing couple as near strangers capable of judgement.  She stands bolted next to you like you’re her anchor in the social storm.

You two seem finely matched… but what do I know?  (Nothing at all.)

I accidentally saw a picture of you and it reminded me that I was dating a man rightfully shaking his fist at God, while trying to hold my hand with the other.  I was reminded of how fiercely we tried to hold our relationship together,  and how devastated and relieved we were in its destruction.  There’s water under that bridge.

I accidentally saw a picture of you.  No big deal.  I wrote about it.

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  1. JB

    September 19, 2021 at 11:27 am

    I re-read this post every so often. Ever since you wrote it I’ve remembered it. As you re-vamp and delete old posts on JTB please never remove this gem.

    Reply
  2. Jennifer

    September 9, 2021 at 4:29 am

    I read this when you first posted it, came back tonight…5 weeks out of a 10 year abusive relationship. Pictures still hurt, someday they’ll just be pictures. I hope. You’re the best friend I’ve never met, much love to you and Tron.

    Reply
  3. Tania

    May 9, 2018 at 7:52 am

    I just wanted to say that I come back to this often. Thank you for your beautiful words.

    Reply
  4. Elizabeth

    May 8, 2018 at 11:52 am

    Every few years when I find myself heart sick I re-read this. Because its a universal pain and its nice to be apart of something.

    Reply
  5. Elizabeth A.

    August 1, 2017 at 10:55 am

    I read this years ago. It stuck with me. Thank you Joy.

    Reply
  6. Kendra

    May 9, 2017 at 1:38 pm

    Wow I just read this via a link in a recent post of yours. It is so beautiful and brave. You have such a wonderful voice and I thank you for sharing it with the interwebs. xo

    Reply
  7. Ramadivya

    April 19, 2017 at 11:01 am

    I couldn’t put the love I have for this article into words if I tried. This made my Wednesday in the most unassuming but relatable way. Thank you.

    Reply
  8. Diana

    March 1, 2017 at 3:45 pm

    It’s 22:40 something on my planet, still 1st of March 2017… and juat like that, out of the blue I remembered this post… still loving it!

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    • joythebaker

      March 2, 2017 at 11:55 am

      These things sneak up, don’t they?

      Reply
  9. Alex

    August 6, 2016 at 10:38 pm

    Four years later and this post still gives me a little comfort when I accidentally see a picture of someone on the internet ????

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