Can I tell you something? Two weeks ago, during a typically rainy New Orleans rainstorm, I was driving my car from not home to home, going down a pothole-y street because they’re all pothole-y streets here in New Orleans. I drove through puddle that seems like a normal-sized puddle and not 6-foot deep middle-of-the-street-swimming-hole, and as my tire splashed through the giant puddle I totally splashed a wall of mud water onto the unsuspecting girl walking along the sidewalk. Like the Sex and the City opening credits, but less whimsical and more muddy. The worst part, the really horrible part is that I didn’t stop my car, get out and apologize. To be fair there was a car driving behind me, but I splashed this girl and I did not stop to recognize her humanity, apologize for her unwanted muddiness, and tell her it was a total accident. I keep thinking about it. Not a cool way to be. I can do better.
Here’s out leap into the new year, Internet-style:
• How To Become The Best In The World at What You Do (and other modest goals?). Start as an amateur…. just start. And run towards the thing that everyone is running from.
• These days, with social media and everyone else’s seemingly perfect lives, there is a lot of shame and defeat associated with sadness. I speak this from my heart because I’ve felt a lot of shame with sadness over the past year. It’s not just the defeat of sadness, I’ve felt like I can’t even talk about my sadness until I have it figured out, until I have a lesson to share, or a successful way towards the light… but what if I don’t? It’s an uncomfortable cycle, but what if sadness is just sadness for a while? Can that just be ok? Let Yourself Be Sad
• It’s like, we know it’s a problem but we’re still not doing anything about it. Like doughnuts and watching Forensic Files late at night. What I Learned in 12 Weeks of Therapy For Social Media Addiction
• The Funny Thing About Abusive Relationships. This is real and honest and real.
• I always read stupid stupid stupid lists like this when I’m looking for anything… absolutely anything to do besides the thing I’m actually supposed to be doing (i.e.: finishing a book manuscript, emailing my accountant, writing a check for the cable bill, doing the dishes). It’s deep, likely unhealthy procrastination. Don’t even get me started on the hashtag #YouKnowTheyReallyLikeYouWhen: 12 Things A Guy Does When He’s Legit Into You. The second item on the list I read as 2. He’s President. And I laughed to myself and stopped reading because that’s all I needed to know. This is not a cry for help, my self esteem is at a solid medium. You should really be alarmed at the number of goat video and cat videos I watch on a weekly basis.
• I’m really ready to simplify. I currently wear the same thing everyday anyway. How to Create a Capsule Wardrobe.
• Is This The Collapse of the Kardashian Economy? Fingers crossed?
• New-to-me podcast that’s interesting: Reply All. Also, are you listening to the second season of Serial?
• How To Set Up Your New iPhone: 13 settings you should change right now. This link is mostly for my Dad.
• I Tried Breadfacing – Now I Understand. This link is probably perplexing to 38% of you, and my mom. Hi, Mom! I’ll call you later.
• Things I made that I did not take pictures of: Homemade Oat Milk. It’s so simple and really lovely with cinnamon and maple syrup.
• I like these Six-Layer Bento Box Lunches from Bon Appetit.
• 73 Questions with Olivia Munn. You’re about to go down a rabbit hole.
• Rose Hibiscus and Coconut Water Face Mist because we are fancy.
• DIY Grapefruit Bitters Kit, because we’re fond of ourselves and gin.
Have some coffee and a quiche. I love you, good day.
How’s your Queen B shoulder shake?
Joy, Thanks so much for the podcast idea. I am bored of the ones I normally listen to and reply all is awesome and fun! Also, serial is now every other week, booo!!! I can totally start from the beginning with reply all!
This year I quit my job to stay home and work full time on my blog and writing career and this article about How To Become The Best In The World At What You Do could NOT have possibly come at a better time in my life. Thank you so much for it! I’m going to print it out and meditate over it weekly.
I probably won’t do that but I’m going to bookmark it at least.
I always look forward to your Sunday posts!
You know what’s cool? I always feel better after reading your posts. I love your recipes and make them often, but all the writing you do in between the recipes is positive and makes me smile. You are kind to your readers and it’s very much appreciated. Thanks, Joy! Your readers care about you too. xo
Joy. I cannot stop watching bread facing. Oh my goodness. I have soooooooooo many questions.
It’s just so strange!
Thank you for your posts Joy. Here’s to a happy 2016 once the sadness passes, and it will. x
You know, if you didn’t feel badly about the muddy incident, that’s when should probably worry, so you are on target for being kind and kudos. The cool thing about blogs is we can reach out and talk about things with unbiased people who encourage and have your back. You go, girl and Happy Sunday! Hugs…RO
Breadfacing – who knew. I think my problem would be actually rubbing my face in it instead of actually snarfing it down. I <3 bread and carbs in general!
A couple weeks ago I turned left and cut off a woman crossing the street. Worse, she was in a wheelchair, which is why I didn’t see her. Worst of all, I was driving a ramp van…because my husband is in a wheelchair! I am still guilty, and couldn’t find her to apologize, as she zipped off in a huff. You didn’t mean it, I didn’t mean it….life happens….
Thank you for sharing. You’re right, life happens!
I think I need to start breadfacing.
Joy, I always love your Sunday posts. I appreciate the one on sadness. I lost my dear sister, suddenly in December, four days before Christmas. I had the honor of also being her friend. I have great support, but many people in our culture have no idea how to deal with death. We aren’t really taught it I suppose. No, I’m not depressed, I’m sad. I’m going to cry a lot more and I’m not going to apologize. I am owning my grief. Thank you.
I’m so sorry for you loss, Cy. I can only imagine. Take good care of yourself.
There are so many good episodes of Reply All–I have been a fan since they started working with Gimlet. I have learned a lot about the internet that I otherwise would not have. Just as I have learned about breadfacing from you, Joy. Um, thanks? JK–I just had to click the link. And I would feel just as guilty as you about soaking that poor pedestrian, but things happen. Life goes on and we try our best to be good people. I appreciate your honesty.
Love your Sunday posts! It’s all so real and honest, thank you. I appreciated the article on iPhone settings. I recently upgraded and I couldn’t figured out why I was being charged for so much data, it turned out it was all the dang settings! I laughed that you said it was mostly for your dad, I usually go to my daughter for stuff like that. Have a great Sunday!
So much good stuff to dig through here, as usual. Thank you. Interesting that you touched on sadness/shame here. I’ve thought much about that over the last year as well. But you’re right – sometimes sadness just has to be what it is. For any thinking, feeling, searching, curious, dynamic, or creative individual, I think sadness is simply the price of admission. And in a more positive vein, I think it leaves us more compassionate, empathetic, and whole – the real deal rather than just a shell.
As for those potholes…been there! Keep a towel in your car (to assist potential victims), maintain a sense of humor, and know that every New Orleanian knows it’s not your fault! Next time – because you KNOW there’ll be a next time. :)
I always appreciate your perspective, Suzonne. We need a coffee date.
Yes, we do! (But only if there are doughnuts, too.)
Yes, we do! (But only if there are doughnuts, too.)