Hello and Happy Sunday my friends!
I’m in Los Angeles helping my parents celebrate their 40th wedding anniversary! This picture sums up my dad giving my mom a little bit of a hard time and my mom ignoring / laughing about it. If that isn’t the secret to a long and happy marriage then what is it? Separate bathrooms? That too.
By the time you read this I’ll be on a plane back south because I have to keep it moving… but I’m headed home with so much gratitude for my parents and the lifetime of memories we get to create together. It’s all so much for than I’d know how to ask for.
It’s Mother’s Day and I hope you’re honoring that in a way that feels good. Aside from Mother’s Day it’s also Sunday and I hope you find at least a few moments of good rest today.
The offering this week is below. The invitation is to take what you need and leave the rest:
• Here’s what’s going on: The ‘heartbeat’ bill that could ban almost all abortions, explained. (Vox)
• This week’s long read is about a Louisiana reality that is really hard to fathom: This Is Cancer Town. (The Guardian)
• Please: The Nature Cure. (Outside)
• The power and fortitude of mothers and, not surprisingly, What ‘Good’ Dads Get Away With. (The New York Times)
• Mothers Have Been Complaining About Mother’s Day Breakfast in Bed for More than Half a Centure. Why Does It Go On? A very important question. (The Kitchn)
• ICON: Dr Ruth. (The Atlantic)
• I listened to this episode of Oprah’s Super Soul Conversations with Tara Westover (the author of Educated), and I was leveled. She speaks really honestly about the dynamics of abusive relationships and about how to situate love in the midst of really challenging relationships. (Apple Podcasts)
• Should we read this? How to Do Nothing: Resisting The Attention Economy. (Amazon)
• How The Hell Has Danielle Steel Managed To Write 179 Books? I’m buying myself more chocolate and cashmere immediately. (Glamour)
• Juts a humble shirt I think we all deserve: Culinary Goddess. (Etsy)
• There are a lot of incredible looks here but Jared Leto and… his head…. really takes the cake. 37 People Who Really Committed To Their Look At The Met Gala This Year. (Buzzfeed)
• Today’s breakfast suggestion: Savory French Toast. (Joy the Baker)
Have the most lovely day.
Happy Mother’s Day to you.
My love to you.
xo Joy
Gabrielle
I see you in your mama’s smile! ^_^ Congratulations to your parents. As a long time reader I always love when you share tidbits about them, and 40 years is whoa a big deal. They both look great and your mum’s dress is lovely.
Amy Larson
Thanks for the shout-out on the Culinary Goddess t-shirt!! And happy anniversary to your lovely parents!!
akbright
Happy 40th to your parents! Your mother’s dress is beautiful, just like her. :)
Martha in KS
I agree – lovely dress.
Amy
Your parents are an inspiration and you are a gem. I look forward to all of your let it be sunday emails with your take it or leave it commentary. I’m always impressed by what you share with your readers about the bakehouse, your yoga teacher certification, or just what you’ve been cooking lately. I mean, we all have 24 hours in a day, but it seems to me like you waste none of them. I am a bit older than you, but I hope to be like you when I grow up xo
Star
Thank you Joy for another thought provoking and enlightening Sunday. I’m really looking forward to reading Tara Westover’s “Educated” after reading former President Obama’s inclusion of it as one of the best reads this year. As for the NYT article regarding gender inequality at home, my god, I’ve been married 39 years and have conceded this battle; not without anger, frustration or bitterness, but with the realization that men just don’t ‘get it.’ My friends, many whom have been married just as long or longer, have discussed this topic repeatedly and we all share/commiserate, but also agree women are absolutely stronger, smarter, more capable and indispensable. And, we all agree that we would love to have a wife!!
Margaret
I lived at the back side of nowhere as a child. I was truly blessed with good, honest parents. On this day of celebration for mothers I am so thankful for the one I had. Happy Mother’s Day to all.
Tiberia
RE: “Good Dads”….he doesn’t have to be a dad for this to happen. I’ve been married for nearly 30 years and we don’t have children. He always looks suprised/startled when I ask him to help with laundry/cleaning/grocery shopping/etc. Oh, he’ll do it, and do it just fine, but I still have to ASK.
Courtney
Exactly! We don’t have kids but this resonated. Even though I enjoy chores to an extent, I don’t want them to take up all of my time and take away from hobbies. He’s great in cleaning the house so it feels nice when I get home from work trips, but clearly doesn’t understand that cleaning also happens all the time. Every now and then I ask him to do something, but I don’t want to have to ask! This is definitely just venting, but it feels good to have solidarity!
Prissy
Congrats on 40 years!
And bans on women’s Constitutional rights? OMG, try living in OH:( It’s a constant assault.
We are actually trying to move out after living here our entire lives. I’m looking forward to bluer skies and a great kitchen!
Savannah
The photo of your par
Savannah
1. I am so weary of narrow phone keyboards that do not accommodate wider thumbs – hence the goof.
2. What I meant to say! The photo of your parents is so tender, thank you for sharing with us! As just a mid-twenties fledgling, 40 years is genuinely awe-inspiring.
3. Get the Jenny Odell book! I was impatient and couldn’t wait for a tangible copy so I opted for the eBook. So far, highly highly recommend.
JoDee
Happy 40th to.your parents! What an accomplishment.
Taste of France
Well, your dad isn’t flashing a smile in the photo so I might be wrong, but I’d say you have your mom’s smile. Congratulations to them! 40 years is a big achievement.
I had the pleasure of meeting Dr. Ruth some years ago, at a small gathering. She was even more energetic and exuberant in person than she exudes in her writing and appearances.
Rena
Congratulations to your parents!
xx from Bavaria/Germany, Rena
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