Hi friends! It feels like a long time since Iโve gotten to chat with you. Not a big deal, I was just helping produce the best little camp cookbook this side of the planet.
Turns out my summer bucket list is exactly one thing: survive. Iโm not even sure Iโm doing that well. Iโve been casually flipping my life upside down (because at this point it seems like I enjoy this). Iโve moved, my writing career is coasting gently forward and I. am. EXHAUSTED. But itโs the good tired that lets me know good things are happening. Amidst all the crazy, I am learning to swim! Iโve never learned to swim, but 37 seems like a solid age to start right? I knew youโd agree. We start every class with something called โbobs.โ It consists of taking a deep breath and sinking under the surface, while pushing air out of your nose. It is to acclimate yourself to exhale, and helps you meditate at the same time. In the first class, I panicked. I should breathe in! But breathing in equals swallowing water andโฆ dying. What?!
Lately, my life feels like a series of โbobs.โ I disappear under the surface, flail, and come back up for air. At the moment, I am in an incredible place in my life โ it feels like I have pointed it in a direction I did not think was possible, in the best way. Happiness, even total contentment, feelsโฆ terrifying. Stemming from a place of feeling undeserving, I have to unlearn that instinct. It feels about the same as learning to swim โ going against a survival skill that no longer serves me.
For those who are also feeling it all lately, youโre not alone friend. I see you. I got you. And I hope this Sunday is easy โ here are some links to ease you in.
โข This little intro is part of a larger piece I wrote about learning to swim. It has truly been an experience and Iโm grateful to be able to write about it, if you want to mosey on over to my website, no big deal. (abbyblujay)
โข Beyoncรฉ is in my city this weekend and though Iโm not seeing her until New Orleans, my spirit is alive just knowing sheโs occupying the same air as I am. People really forget Iโm a super-fan, but never fear I will always remind you. My favorite villain blogger and JtB team member, Kim, was sent to Renaissance Tour (presumably by a higher power) and got to write about it. I cried. (Nashville Scene)
โข BARBIE-heimer has arrived! For those who donโt know, BARBIE and Oppenheimer premiered on the same day and have been merged together, forever to be remembered as BARBIE-HEIMER. It is to the point that people are seeing is as a quasi double feature. Personally, I think seeing Oppenheimer first followed by BARBIE is the correct order, but that would make it OPPEN-ARBIE and no one wants that. (CNN)
โข My newest clothing obsession is Anthropologieโs sale room โ that magical room in the back of Anthropologie that holds wonders and almost always 40% off the sale price. I have found every drawer pull in my house from there. Embarrassing yet triumphant story, I tried on this skirt thinking it was a dress, confidently pulling it up over my boobs. When I came out of the dressing room the attendant quietly said, โBabyโฆ thatโs a skirt.โ Anyways, I bought it and plan on wearing as a dress.
โข I made the mistake of saying that I read as many fantasy romances as I can get my hands on and now I must tell you which ones. I finally finished the Court of Thorns & Roses series only to start another epic series immediately. What can I say, I love a theme. I also just started The Joy Luck Club, which has somehow slipped my reading grasp until now! I am excited to read it. Fantasy readers, give me all of your suggestions please! (Bookshop.org)
โข Tony Bennett, aside from being in the classic crooner category, seemed like the sweetest, most gentle person. Is it weird that I loved his relationship with Lady Gaga? They seem like the bestest friends, it always tugged at my heart. However, hearing about his civil rights work is new to me. May his memory always be a blessing. (Pro tip: if you put your browser in โreader modeโ it will let you read the entire article!) (Washington Post)
โข Toby talked about not gatekeeping beauty secrets in her Sunday post and it got my mind running around scents I love. Le Labo makes a few of my favorites, Lys 41, Santal 33, and Another 13. Recently, Iโve added YSLโs Le Capeline to the signature rotations, which smells like the most sophisticated floral without the great-grandma reputation. I had to save every single penny but theyโve been worth it, promise. The best compliment Iโve ever gotten was, โYou smell like a field of French flowers!โ I passed out. (Joy the Baker, Nordstrom)
โข Choosing food has been weirdly hard lately. Thank goodness I know a gal who has the best recipes. I am adding Joyโs watermelon salad to my rotation this week and itโs preemptively the best decision Iโll make! (Joy the Baker)
โข This is a regular affirmation to my cat Wylie, followed by 7000 kisses. Heโs a fan, Iโm sure. (TikTok)
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Iโm loving all the recommendations in the comments. These are my kind of books. :-) Try Laini Taylor! I love the Daughter of Smoke and Bone series or Stranger the Dreamer. So good! Or the Graceling series by Kristin Cashore.
Huge fan of Strange the Dreamer! Iโm hoping the third book releases soon! I couldnโt get into Daughter of Smoke and Bone but that was at the beginning of my fantasy journey โ Iโm gonna try again!!
Yes to fantasy romance!! I upvote all โFourth Wingโ recommendations, and also add the โLegendbornโ series by Tracy Deonn and the โOnce Upon a Broken Heartโ series by Stephanie Garber for consideration. They are both unfinished series though, so be prepared to pine whilst waiting to find out what happens. If you like โdark academiaโ type romantasy, I would also recommend the โScholomanceโ series by Naomi Novik and โShades of Magicโ by V.E. Schwab (of Addie LaRue fame). Happy reading!!
I just screamed a little bit. The Legendborn series IS ONE OF MY FAVES. Iโm definitely adding โFourth Wingโ to my list I canโt wait. These are fantastic recs thank you!!
I love your Sunday lists! I look forward to reading every single link here. I received my Camp Joy mini magazine and read it in one sitting. I will be trying every single recipe whether itโs camping or simply out on my driveway. ? I WILL conquer charcoal cooking this summer!
Hello, fantasy novels are the best! The two other series by Sarah J. Maas are good, especially throne of glass. Fourth Wing was worth reading. I also liked the Ember in the Ashes series by Sabaa Tahir. The priory of the orange tree was so long at times but I liked it too.
TJ Klune is also a new favorite now.
Congrats on learning to swim! I was scared to death of water and decided at age 39 to learn to swim. Iโm so glad I conquered my fear and did it.
What a fantastic description of your swimming lessons and life itself. Iโve been considering swimming lessons (at a bit older age than you) and this has tipped me over! Signing up when I return from vacation.
I love love that skirt as a dress! Just think you now have 2 items of clothing in 1!
Skirt can be dress. Ice cream can be dinner. New rules.
Itโs technically a young adult series, but the fantasy series that starts with Inkheart is amazing, truly. Itโs by Cornelia Funke and is a trilogy.
Hi Abby and all!
The House in the Cerulean Sea by TJ Klune is a delightful, exciting, special, sad & very happy fantasy read! Try itโฆI promise youโll like it!
TJ Klune is one of my favorites!! Read Under the Whispering Door if you havenโt yet. I cried for both books
Reader mode, WHAT?! Game changer.
not sure how to do Reader Mode?
Usually, where you type in the web address thereโs a little box next to it that looks like a tiny notepad. Itโll put it into a kind of Kindle reader mode where you can make the text larger and smaller. For Washington Post articles it allows you to read them passing the paywall!
I LOVE, LOVE that you found a DRESS where a skirt previously existed. We should all be so clever and open. Go Forth and Look Fabulous.
I hear ya about the โlife lately is a bunch of bobsโโgoing down then coming back up for air! Iโm doing the same darn thing ?, so thanks for posting about it. BTW, I love your guest blog posts the best so keep them comingโฆ.also LOL YES go wear that Anthropologie (I love love love Anthropologie too!) skirt as a dress because I agreeโitโs too long as a skirt and would look wonderful as a dress!!! And keep on swimming, you can do it!
Oh, never mind that article is by you! Kudos, Abby!
Abby, thought you would enjoy this article on learning to swim at age 37- apparently itโs a thing! I tip my hat to you!
It is NEVER too late to learn how to swim. Being in the soup of our mother earths ocean is always a good thing. Whether it be a bath, a pool, a pond or lake you should feel the freedom of water. Good choice for your summer bucket list! Brava!
I have fantasy recs!! If youโre looking for more epics, NK Jemisin is fantastic. For historical fantasy, I love Naomi Novikโs Temeraire series (it gets outshone by her Deadly Education series lately, but I still think itโs great). Quirky, absurdist sense of humor is best done by Sir Terey Pratchett. The best YA fantasy authors Iโve read have been Tamora Pierce and Judy I. Lin. For fantasy with some romance, Daughter of the Moon Goddess.
I donโt read a ton of romance-specific fantasy, but Iโm always happy to get people into my fave genre ???
Ugh, cell phone typos. Sir Terry* Pratchett, and there should be emojis instead of question marks!
I read Daughter of the Moon Goddess it was wonderful! I will check out your other recs, thank you!!
Fantasy/sci-if series recommendation from my teen son: ANYTHING by Brandon Sanderson but especially Warbreaker and anything in the Cosmere. Or stuff by Brent Weeks. I am also on book 3 of Suzanne Palmerโs Finder series and cannot believe she isnโt more well-known. Well written, exciting, funny and fun! We love Neal Shustermanโs Scythe series dearly but it can be a bitโฆ heavy, especially in times like these. ??
Am I sitting on a patio at my local breakfast place crying because of how beautiful your description of your swim lessons are, Abby? The power we harness when we decide that, yep, Iโm gonna do the thing that scares me because I want to do it more than it scares me. Thank you for sharing and reminding me of this truth.
I love your posts Abby! Whenever I see your writing pop up somewhere (like CupofJo) I think- โHey- itโs my friend Abby!โ
Itโs so great and wonderfully brave you are learning to swim. Being a beginner is HUMBLING but worth it. One of my summer goals is to swim every chance I get and itโs been lovely.