Can I tell you something? Two weeks ago, during a typically rainy New Orleans rainstorm, I was driving my car from not home to home, going down a pothole-y street because theyโre all pothole-y streets here in New Orleans. I drove through puddle that seems like a normal-sized puddle and not 6-foot deep middle-of-the-street-swimming-hole, and as my tire splashed through the giant puddle I totally splashed a wall of mud water onto the unsuspecting girl walking along the sidewalk. Like the Sex and the City opening credits, but less whimsical and more muddy. The worst part, the really horrible part is that I didnโt stop my car, get out and apologize. To be fair there was a car driving behind me, but I splashed this girl and I did not stop to recognize her humanity, apologize for her unwanted muddiness, and tell her it was a total accident. I keep thinking about it. Not a cool way to be. I can do better.
Hereโs out leap into the new year, Internet-style:
โข How To Become The Best In The World at What You Do (and other modest goals?). Start as an amateurโฆ. just start. And run towards the thing that everyone is running from.
โข These days, with social media and everyone elseโs seemingly perfect lives, there is a lot of shame and defeat associated with sadness. I speak this from my heart because Iโve felt a lot of shame with sadness over the past year. Itโs not just the defeat of sadness, Iโve felt like I canโt even talk about my sadness until I have it figured out, until I have a lesson to share, or a successful way towards the lightโฆ but what if I donโt? Itโs an uncomfortable cycle, but what if sadness is just sadness for a while? Can that just be ok? Let Yourself Be Sad
โข Itโs like, we know itโs a problem but weโre still not doing anything about it. Like doughnuts and watching Forensic Files late at night. What I Learned in 12 Weeks of Therapy For Social Media Addiction
โข The Funny Thing About Abusive Relationships. This is real and honest and real.
โข I always read stupid stupid stupid lists like this when Iโm looking for anythingโฆ absolutely anything to do besides the thing Iโm actually supposed to be doing (i.e.: finishing a book manuscript, emailing my accountant, writing a check for the cable bill, doing the dishes). Itโs deep, likely unhealthy procrastination. Donโt even get me started on the hashtag #YouKnowTheyReallyLikeYouWhen: 12 Things A Guy Does When Heโs Legit Into You. The second item on the list I read as 2. Heโs President. And I laughed to myself and stopped reading because thatโs all I needed to know. This is not a cry for help, my self esteem is at a solid medium. You should really be alarmed at the number of goat video and cat videos I watch on a weekly basis.
โข Iโm really ready to simplify. I currently wear the same thing everyday anyway. How to Create a Capsule Wardrobe.
โข Is This The Collapse of the Kardashian Economy? Fingers crossed?
โข New-to-me podcast thatโs interesting: Reply All. Also, are you listening to the second season of Serial?
โข How To Set Up Your New iPhone: 13 settings you should change right now. This link is mostly for my Dad.
โข I Tried Breadfacing โ Now I Understand. This link is probably perplexing to 38% of you, and my mom. Hi, Mom! Iโll call you later.
โข Things I made that I did not take pictures of: Homemade Oat Milk. Itโs so simple and really lovely with cinnamon and maple syrup.
โข I like these Six-Layer Bento Box Lunches from Bon Appetit.
โข 73 Questions with Olivia Munn. Youโre about to go down a rabbit hole.
โข Rose Hibiscus and Coconut Water Face Mist because we are fancy.
โข DIY Grapefruit Bitters Kit, because weโre fond of ourselves and gin.
Have some coffee and a quiche. I love you, good day.
xo Joy
Howโs your Queen B shoulder shake?
40 Responses
Joy, Thanks so much for the podcast idea. I am bored of the ones I normally listen to and reply all is awesome and fun! Also, serial is now every other week, booo!!! I can totally start from the beginning with reply all!
This year I quit my job to stay home and work full time on my blog and writing career and this article about How To Become The Best In The World At What You Do could NOT have possibly come at a better time in my life. Thank you so much for it! Iโm going to print it out and meditate over it weekly.
I probably wonโt do that but Iโm going to bookmark it at least.
I always look forward to your Sunday posts!
You know whatโs cool? I always feel better after reading your posts. I love your recipes and make them often, but all the writing you do in between the recipes is positive and makes me smile. You are kind to your readers and itโs very much appreciated. Thanks, Joy! Your readers care about you too. xo