Hello my friends!
I’ve had one of those once-in-a-lifetime weekends in Louisville Kentucky at this year’s Kentucky Derby. It’s such a unique, cultural tradition that I’ve celebrated with my dear friend Whitney in Los Angelesfor the past seven years and it felt really special to be in Kentucky for the real deal. The horses are gorgeous, the jockeys are so strong. The hats were HUGE, y’all, and the rain was real. Sigh…. so real.
I’ll be back in New Orleans by tomorrow afternoon and it will all just feel like an incredibly soggy dream that I’m grateful for. I hope this weekend has sunshine and adventure in it for you. I hope you’re drinking in these bright Spring greens growing and flowers blooming. It’s such a beautiful moment.
Here is this week’s offering. I’m not talking about the president’s lawyers or Kanye West because we all need a break:
• An array of problems arise with this opinion piece found in the Times this week: The Redistribution of Sex, discussing the woes of a class of white men who dub themselves ‘involuntarily celibate’. I’m thankful for this companion piece that brings sense to things: Someone Please Tell The Times That Incels Are Terrorists. (NYT and Village Voice)
• These perspectives are great and it’s always compelling to read how differently (and similarly) people answer the same questions: The Interview from Leave it to Lenor. (Tumblr)
• One of life’s great mysteries: Allergies or headache? (Bustle)
• This app delivers food to the hungry instead of to the trash. (Fast Company)
• Let’s listen to Liz Phair this week. Feels apropos. Out of Exile: Twenty five years after her career-making album, Liz Phair is still writing songs first and foremost for herself. (The Cut)
• The second season of The Handmaid’s Tale is out and I can watch it about twenty minutes at a time before freaking out. (Sidetone: Elisabeth Moss is not tryna hear about my fear.) I think I’m going to queue up this show, too: Killing Eve, starring Sandra Oh. (Sidebote: remember when she left Dr. Burke standing at the aisle and had an epic panic attack in her wedding dress on Grey’s Anatomy? Me too. Me too.) (Hulu, Refinery 29, BBC)
• If you’re looking for some May-time Mother’s Day ideas, here are a few thoughts: Food52’s Unique Gift Ideas For Mom an from A Cozy Kitchen, 10 Cozy Things To Make This May.
• This Easy Creamy Chicken is going to hit my table this week, for sure! (The Recipe Critic)
• Two versions of my very favorite cake: Tres Leches Cake and Tres Leches Ice Cream. (Joy the Baker and The Candid Appetite)
• I wore this sweet hat from Goorin Bros to the Derby this weekend. They customized the ribbons for me which is a lovely thing they do in store. Ready for your summer hat?
• Wrap dresses this summer? The dress above is this Kate Spade dress!
Thank you for your time here today!
My love to you,
Joy
25 Responses
If I’m being honest, I skimmed the Times incel article. I just… couldn’t. However, I read the piece in the Village Voice in its entirety – “I was disgusted at first. Then I got angry. Then I wanted Arby’s” should be made into graffiti art for all to see. Or better yet, written in frosting on a delicious cake and mailed to the incel terrorist headquarters. Maybe they’re all just really hangy? Maybe that’s hoping for too much.
Your shoes are so perfect with the outfit too! Are the Everlane by any chance? I always dream about their shoes (I have two pairs but they are both black and a little boring, but also wonderful).
They are Everlane, good eye! Absolutely my favorite shoe!
That incel stuff is seriously frightening. The idea that women should be forced to have sex with men because it is the men’s “right” to have sex…wtf is wrong with this world?
OMG. Killing Eve is insanely good!!! You have great taste, JTB!!
Finished reading those two articles about incels and I feel physically sick. It’s less the “incels” themselves, who are clearly deeply damaged individuals with significant mental health problems, and more the attempts by others to suggest that their ideology has validity. That economist who wrote about “gentle silent rape” (yes I clicked through to the blog post, yes I regretted it) is despicable.
Please share where you got that cute dress!
Bottom bullet point, but it’s $400 :(
Expensive for sure! I rented it for the occasion from Rent the Runway.
oooh, I always forget that’s a thing!
I, too, have been watching Handmaid’s in short bursts. Especially that 3rd episode! The anxiety was REAL.
I guess the “You can’t judge an entire group based on the actions of a few radicals. Not all _______ are terrorists” argument doesn’t apply when it’s a group you don’t like huh?
Your point doesn’t land and there’s also no irony here.
Hi. Not all men who aren’t having sex are terrorists. Just like all Muslims aren’t terrorists. All men who consider themselves Incels are terrorists. Just like all members of ISIS are terrorists. Does that clear things up for you sweetie?
wow! Passive Aggressive much?
Preach = in response to “Rational Thought” and JTB.
Killing Eve is fantastic – I’m hooked! Love your blog… :-)
Love the dress! Love the whole outfit!
Your fabulous outfit…Congratulations! Full board flat out STYLE! DELIGHTFUL to see. Harmony! hanks for sharing your sources!
Major headaches from gum thickeners in food, yep allergy alright. Miserable.
Killing Eve. This show…SO good. I love it!
Killing Eve is excellent, you will not regret that life experience. You should totally check out Phobe Waller-Bridge’s other, first, show, Fleabag, which is insanely wonderful.
I absolutely LOVED Fleabag so I’m very much looking forward to Killing Eve. Thanks, lady!
Girl, your dress is all the praise hands emojis. ALL OF THEM.
How cool you attended it again and the dress is wonderful!
xx from Bavaria/Germany, Rena
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