It’s been one of those swirly weeks, where I’m not sure which pairs of socks are clean and I don’t know which moving box has my favorite dinner plate in it, and I’m not entirely sure I have the right paperwork to take to the water board (because there is a water board) to ask nicely to pay for water and a trash can. Also, my accountant called and talked at me all slow and careful because it’s THAT time of year. And, I just started watching the show Survivor because 2016 seemed like as fine a time as any to get into that show for pure distraction and procrastination purposes.
It’s one of those weeks where inspiration is present but dang elusive and tasks are heavy and endless. I have a tendency to be hard on myself (about the silly television watching for starters), and while being hard on myself can sometimes serve as a motivator… more often than not it a negative pot to simmer in.
In these times of self-bumming I try my best to have patience with myself, see clearly what needs to be done, motivate myself with chocolate, and remind myself of all of the things I know how to do instead of focusing on all of the things I’m still trying to figure out.
Let’s remind ourselves of all of the adulting we do with moderate to great levels of success. It’s a momentary pat on the back and then we’ll get back to not-procrastinating… cool?
All The Things We Know, A Short List:
- We know how to pay our bills and turn the faucet off while we brush our teeth. Not related.
- We know how to apologize when we hurt someone and make cinnamon rolls (also when we hurt someone) (or want cinnamon rolls).
- We know how to communicate our feelings with reason and sanity and sometimes with pent-up yelling (the former being preferable).
- We know how to get our hair done and buy new shoes when times get serious (internally mentally serious).
- We know when to soothe ourselves with tater tots and when to soothe ourselves with yoga.
- We know when to call instead of text, and when to show up instead of call. It’s care. Also: bring either pie, doughnuts or wine.
- We know how to pet a cat, talk to a baby, hold a baby without looking freaked out externally, and make a bologna sandwich. Not at the same time. It’s hard to hold a baby, look not freaked out, and do anything else.
- We know how to hustle hard with kindness for ourselves and others. This is our reminder.
Considering all of the adulting we tackle everyday, in all of our relationships,there’s not much we can’t do (besides breathe underwater). Let’s look at our to-do list with fresh eyes and high-fives.
Kelly
I love your blog posts! Thanks for your thoughtful writing :)
Kate
I too only recently became obsessed with Survivor – it’s addictive!
conor
I really enjoyed reading this.
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TheBlogness
Love this post! :) It’s so refreshing to read something like this..I will be coming back to visit you beautiful blog for sure!
AGNESE from http://www.theblogness.com
carolyn
Joy – One of my favorite lyrics from a song is “I’m still learning things I thought I’d know by now.” I’m 48 and it’s so true!
joythebaker
Word. Word up.
Tracy
you are full of good words, thank you Joy!
Jenn | foodess
Hope your next week is easy and lighthearted. That is a very short list of the things you know how to do, you could fill a book with your talents and charms. xo
Kara Chin
Hi Joy,
Thanks for the uplifting words. Some days are just tough but we just have to chug along and keep going. As a relatively new person to the solo adulting world, I hate the days when I have to the boring stuff or when I don’t know what the heck I am doing. Thanks for reminding me that I’m not the only one and that it’s okay to not know what you are doing. Hope the move is going well! Snapchat may say otherwise though ;)
Kara
Brianne
Thank you for your vulnerability and always being a source of inspiration! Adulting gets so real sometimes and it can be the worst. I’m glad you shared this here. You got this!