COM•PLI•MENT // noun // a polite expression of praise or admiration.
COMPLIMENT CLUB, it would follow, is a group of people whom actively, enthusiastically, sincerely, and frequently offer words of praise to the people around them. My maj Tracy and I came up with Compliment Club as a way of encouraging each other to send good vibes into the world. It’s not an exclusive club… you should totally hop on in!
Let’s talk about compliments. You’ve likely gotten them when you’re wearing a flattering dress, when your hair is flipping the right way at the right time on the right day, when you’ve made an impression on someone… BOOM! Sometimes they drop a compliment in your lap. It feels great! It feels like you’ve been seen and appreciated for your hard work to be a good human. Right?
Well… giving is more important that getting. I think it was Socrates that said that. Definitely Socrates.
There are some guidelines for offering compliments. We can’t just go throwing them around willy-nilly. Here are the rules of Compliment Club. Join. Follow them. Let’s be better together. (I sincerely mean that… don’t look at me like I’m crazy.)
• First rule of Compliment Club (yes… we can talk about Compliment Club): Look for the positive in other people. This is imperative. You can’t offer a sincere compliment if you aren’t looking for the beauty in the people around you. Naturally, sometimes seeing the light in people is easier than others. In gridlock traffic? Hard…. very hard to see the good in people. Behind the lady writing a check in the express lane at the grocery store? Challenging…. extremely challenging to see the beauty in that situation.
It’s ok. Not every moment is the right time for a sincere compliment. But! If you’re regularly looking for the good in people, those moments of frustration will likely (hopefully) have less of a tinge.
• The second rule of Compliment Club: Be genuine. Mean what you say.
Stay away from hyperbole. Hyperbole is saying things like “oh my gosh you’re the best person in the world.” An exaggeration. I mean… they’re probably great, but literally the best person in the world? Is that accurate?
I’m guilty of hyperbole. I think it’s the way of the Internet these days… exaggerating to make things sound like the best, the biggest, the coolest thing EVER. Hyperbole has no place in a genuine compliment. It actually makes the compliment rather empty.
Root yourself in the compliment. Stand tall in it. I think we use hyperbole to separate ourselves from the genuine words we really want to say.